All the lonely people
Where do they all come from ?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong ?
I've been thinking a lot about loneliness in the last few days. Not because I'm lonely. It's hard to be lonely when you are a wife and mom to two teenagers. My life is filled with people I care about and sharing our lives together.
I've been thinking about loneliness because of George Sodini, the man in LA who shot and killed three women in a gym in LA. Now please don't misunderstand, I think that what Mr. Sodini did was reprehensible and cowardly. And my heart goes out to the victims and their families. This is without a doubt a tragic and heartbreaking event.
But what struck me about this tragedy is that Mr. Sodini was angry with women because he felt ignored by them. He claimed he had not had a date or been intimate for close to 20 years in spite of the fact that he considered himself to be a decent looking guy, who kept himself fit and attractive. And yet he couldn't find a girlfriend. Obviously, there is more to this story. And it takes more than mere attractiveness to attract the opposite sex. But, I couldn't help but sense Mr. Sodini's loneliness and his helplessness in the face of it.
Again, don't misconstrue my thoughts here. Being lonely does not excuse what Mr. Sodini did. And in no way do I feel sympathy for Mr. Sodini. But after reading this story, I couldn't help but think of all the thousands of lonely people in the world. The ones who have never found love or companionship. Or those who found it, but lost it and never find it again. In my busy and full life, I haven't given much thought to what it must be like to lonely- year after year, with no end in sight. It's a sobering thought. And it makes me thankful for the love and affection in my own life. Some days when I'm feeling overwhelmed and pulled in a million different directions by all the demands made on my time and attention, I fantasize about living alone with no one to please but myself. I've been rethinking that fantasy in the last few days. As I said, I've never given much thought to loneliness. But that was before I read about Mr. Sodini.